Teenagers and Changing Behaviour.

By January 16, 2017Real life

Personal insights from having lived with and around teenagers over the past twelve years.

Have you ever wondered why some people are more successful in life than others? On the surface, do they seem to have the perfect relationship, and does it seem that their business provides them with abundance. Take a look at your own circle of friends; how does their life, career, and relationships compare to yours? From the moment, we are born, our parents and other significant adults, guide us, tell us what to do and attempt to mould us into a version of themselves. Growing up; whether it be at home with our parents, or at school, if we were allowed to become who we were naturally destined to be, then I believe that we could all achieve greater things. If a child is great at sport at school they receive a lot of focus and end up being trained by the best, unlike someone who is good at art or cooking. If we were to come home with a report card with five “A’s” and one “F” then the focus would be on the F, and how we could improve in that area as opposed to just celebrating the “A’s” this only leads to judgement and isolation. Unfortunately, teachers do not have the time nor are they paid enough to spend on individual students, encouraging them to find and nurture their Natural Talent. We all grow up under the influence of our parents, family, relatives, teachers, friends etc. We are also influenced by cultures, religions, and our environment. For instance, someone growing up on the Northern Beaches of Sydney would have very different values than someone who had grown up in a war-torn city in the Middle East. These influences become our form of belief which in turn underpins our values. We act in accordance with our values, and these become our behaviour. As teenagers, we all start to question our ‘taught’ beliefs and values as our own values and beliefs mature. Many teenagers will become disconnected from their parents and wonder why: “they don’t get me?” Some will move on and become aligned with whom they naturally are; whilst others just become stuck. These youngsters may even withdraw, develop a sense of not belonging and some may become depressed. This period of change is equally as confusing and confronting for parents causing them to become stuck or depressed themselves. Parents may see this change in behaviour as rebellious and may try to mould the teenager, to be more like themselves. A better solution would be to encourage the teenager to develop into the person they are destined to be.  I know with my own son, it became a series of negotiations, over a period of time, allowing him to have buy into how he could develop his own routine around school/uni and life. I found that there was room for compromise on my behalf as my values & beliefs were not as applicable today as they were during my life. This negotiation allowed us both to contribute and we found that our needs were also satisfied, the result became the ground rules by which we still abide today. Around the time kids reach HSC age, anxiety is high and many lack direction and confidence in where they will head once high school is over. Some will take a gap break; others sign up for courses that have no relevance to them and will find themselves dropping out and they may well repeat this process over and over again. I am not saying that this applies to all young people, a large number of this group will be able to identify with themselves, if they are lucky enough to discover their Natural Talent and align with their own individual values. I feel that a lot of this lack of fluidity between parents and their children can be put down to the usual everyday stresses of long working hours, peer pressures, and financial struggles. A large number of children are in the care of the Grandparents, who in turn instil their own particular values from their generation onto their grandchildren. And so, the gap widens, everyone means well and does their part with best intentions, however, the way in which kids learn, act and behave today, is unchartered territory for most adults, more so when we have increasing differences in age and advancing technology. As I have identified, teenagers generally experience internal conflict, which in turn causes much angst. If these teenagers were to receive assistance in finding and aligning with their own values and were given permission to behave according to their own beliefs and rules, this may be the key to their Success in Life, Relationships, and Career. This does not only apply to teenagers and young adults, adults themselves who feel stuck or anxious would find enormous value to both career and relationships if they were to align with their true values.   Warwick Hood’s long and diverse business career has carried one common theme. Success. He’s a builder of businesses – a person with the confidence and vision to take his entrepreneurial ideas to the start-up stage and beyond. Warwick’s also held senior executive roles in the corporate world, where his foresight, people skills, and gift for strategy have been some of the keys to his achievements. Warwick’s business journey has taken him through the infrastructure, construction and mining industries in Australia, Hong Kong, Vietnam and the Pacific. His role as CEO and founder of Momentum Performance is a reflection of everything he’s learned along the way. That, and a passion for helping people achieve their true potential.

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